Just hours before the video was posted, Hayley released the music video for her song “For the Girls,” featuring a queer version of The Bachelorette. Becca even made a cameo at the end of the video.

“Obviously we knew the video was happening and that was going to at least cause talk and speculation,” Becca said. “And in my mind I thought, ‘How do we do this reveal in the video and then not actually reveal our relationship?’ It only made sense to do it together.”

Still, Becca made it clear she was never hiding her relationship with Hayley. “For four years, it’s been our relationship, but I was telling someone the other day, like, Hayley and I were never secret,” she said. “Like, we were very much ourselves, we held hands in public, we kissed . . . If I was with Hayley, I introduced her, ‘This is my girlfriend, Hayley.’ I never was like, ‘This is my friend’ or ‘This is my best friend.’ I really made an effort to make sure there was that distinction between private and secret.”

While speaking about the loving comments of support they’ve received, Becca teared up. “Hayley has really made me feel brave,” she continued, “and she was always like, ‘People are going to love you. People love you and they want to see you happy.’ ”

And she doesn’t feel the need to label her sexuality. “For me, it was never about my label,” Becca said. “Having the label and being able to name what they’ve experienced is really important for some people. That just wasn’t my experience . . . It’s not like, ‘This is my label. This is my sexuality.’ It’s more like, ‘Hey, I’m in love and I’m excited to share it with you all.’ ”